Is the man you care about a “Fraidy Cat”?  Is he skittish and fearful about entering into a relationship that will require “commitment”?  Do you just hint at the word and he jumps?  Is he a commitment phobe man? 

Do you find yourself having a great time when you are out on a date and everything seems to fall into place naturally — great connection and strong chemistry — and then when you are apart, you feel like the connection is just not there?  Do you wonder if you are going nuts?

Even though he stays in touch regularly, you just feel inside that something is not quite right.  There is something that is missing. You still feel like you are on the “outside looking in” because he has not let you into his heart.

How do you get a commitment phobe man to relax?  First of all, do not hound him into making a statement about how he feels about your relationship.  This will only serve to make him more uptight and make him talk about everything but what you want to talk about, namely, your relationship.

Men generally do not like a lot of questions and particularly do not like to be questioned about their intentions.  Having to spell out their intentions makes them feel as if they are being forced to relinquish their freedom.  A commitment phobe man fears losing his freedom more than anything.  If you truly want him to relax and be comfortable with you, stop questioning him.

You can help a commitment phobic man relax and strengthen the emotional bond between you by continuing to be “you”.  This means continuing to do the things you loved before you met him. When a person engages in things they love, they emit a strong positive energy that naturally attracts others to them.  As you engage in doing things you love, you will not be as focused on “commitment” from him.  He will automatically sense this and will be able to relax.

This sense of relaxation will stem from the fact that he is not held responsible for your happiness as he realizes you are able to take care of yourself.  Commitment phobe guys often feel that they are responsible for making someone happy and feel it is their fault if you are not happy.  No one likes to feel at fault, so men often do not allow themselves to come close to a situation where they feel they will be held at fault. 

As he continues to spend time with you in a positive, joyful space, he will realize that he wants to be around you.  He will then be in an environment that makes him feel safe as he does not feel the pressure to always perform to make you happy.  He will realize that he is happier when he is with you then when he is not with you.  As this realization dawns on him, he will seek you out because he realizes that you are the strong, confident partner he has been searching for without knowing it.

This motivation will come from deep inside of him and then he will be emotionally relaxed enough to commit to you.  For more tips on how to make a guy fall in love with you